21 Very Subtle Warning Signs That Signal Your "Good" Relationship Is Definitely Over, And Every Couple Should Take Notes

Some relationships end in "happily ever after," and others are doomed from the start. But how do you know when things are taking a turn for the worse?

I recently stumbled across a Reddit thread where people shared "dead giveaways" that a seemingly good relationship is bound for a breakup. From subtle moments to something *so* obvious it's impossible to ignore, here are the signs to look out for:

1. "Quiet detachment is always the first stage of an impending breakup."

2. "If one of you does not have a good dynamic with your partner's family and your partner doesn't protect you from them and lets them override boundaries."

—u/fullmoonspongecake

4. "They start making long-term plans, like moving, buying a house, or taking a major job, and phrase it as 'I' instead of 'we.'"

5. "Their entire relationship is only with one another. There's no one and nothing else. When it goes bad (and it will), it'll be really bad. If your relationship is your entire personality, who are you?"

—u/macabretech39

6. "When they feel happy or at peace when they're away from each other."

—u/ijamesreads

7. "The true enemy of love isn't hate, it's indifference with a little contempt sprinkled in."

8. "When one person is working towards something and the other is content with exactly where they are. If you're not building together, you're growing apart."

—u/easylasagne

9. "The last time I predicted something was off, and then the couple ended up breaking up, was the fact that the person simply didn't mention their partner in passing, not even once, when usually it happened."

—u/gerbileleventh

10. "When it's based only on physical attraction/hormones. Once that honeymoon phase winds down, it's done."

11. "Putting everyone else and everything else as a priority over your partner."

—u/LuxeTraveler

13. "When one of them treats strangers much more kindly than their own partner."

15. "When one person's only job options are over 100 miles away or out of state, and neither person shows signs of planning on moving together."

—u/brent109

16. "When you start feeling more lonely next to them than you do when you're alone."

17. "When you stop feeling safe enough to be honest with each other, the relationship is usually already on borrowed time."

—u/Exciting_Back_1165

18. "When it's a long-distance relationship and after meeting up, you say 'I'll miss you,' and their only response is 'awww'..."

—u/galaxydriver32

19. "'We stopped fighting.' People think it means peace, but usually it just means you've both realized the relationship isn't even worth the battery percentage on your phones anymore."

20. "When no one wants to visit you for over a decade because the relationship is so toxic and hostile that it radiates to the whole house."

—u/New_Crow3284

21. And finally, "I had friends who joked about what they would get in the divorce. My partner and I thought it was a weird thing to joke about, but some people have that kind of humor, so we shrugged it off. The divorce happened a year later."

—u/Sivitri617

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