"Never Trust Someone Who...": Adults Are Revealing The Tiny Actions That Tell You Everything You Need To Know About Someone In Seconds

If you've ever heard the phrase "actions speak louder than words," you've probably had a moment that made you raise your eyebrows. While big things will always catch your attention, little interactions have a funny way of sneaking up on you.

I recently stumbled across a Reddit thread where people shared the subtle actions and traits that reveal more about a person than you think. Here are the behaviors that'll tell you everything you need to know about someone (or at least give you a clear hint):

1. "Being rude to anyone in the service industry, retail workers, etc. I've seen people look down on cleaners and service staff, and I can't stand it."

2. "When you try to mention literally ANYTHING about your own life, interests, family, etc., and they cut you off and keep on rambling about their 'everything.'"

—u/MegsMeowMarie

3. "Words are meaningless. I want someone's actions to align with the things they say."

—u/Magically_Melinda

4. "When you share things like where you've been, what you've done. They did it bigger; they did it better. They have to 'one-up' you on everything. The worst!"

—u/kathi182

5. "If they have a long list of people in their life who have been awful (ex-bosses, ex-colleagues, ex-friends, etc). The truth often is that they were the awful one. Always look for the common denominator."

6. "How much they talk about other people. If they gossip a lot to you about others, they're always doing the same to you behind your back."

—u/SuzakuAqua

7. "If they say, 'I don't read.' Automatic judgment from me."

—u/UsualGlum13

8. "Whether they hold the door open for the person behind them, or if they let it slam in their face. Also, if someone with their hands full drops something, will they help pick it up or watch the person struggle? And whether they get out of the way for people walking by without being told, 'Excuse me.'"

—u/[deleted]

9. "If they are clearly at fault for something but make every effort to place blame on someone else. That tells me a lot about a person."

10. "I have a coworker who will come into my room and just start talking about everything and nothing. Whenever I try to respond, she whips out her phone, starts texting, and says, 'I have to take this,' in the middle of me talking. I started shutting and locking my door. Take that somewhere else."

—u/Magically_Melinda

11. "How they interact with others, especially what they say and do. Do the two match up?"

—u/Treewomyn

12. "What they judge in others often reveals their own insecurities. Also, how they handle constructive feedback."

—u/xoViolette

13. "When you invite them to a restaurant and instead of ordering what looks good or what they like, they order all the expensive food, several drinks, and a dish or dessert to go when you know they would never order any or all of that if they were paying."

14. "How they treat the ones who can't do anything for them is a pretty solid indicator of a good person or not."

—u/damianopoly

15. "When someone falls or drops something, watch out for who actually helps them. Especially watch if they dropped a bunch of stuff like pens or papers. Look for who goes a good distance out of their way to help. Sometimes you help if you're right next to them so you don't look like a dick, but someone who stops what they're doing or runs a good distance just to help someone pick some stuff up is definitely a good person."

—u/TheCleanestKitchen

16. "How they handle being told 'no.' That one reveals way more than any introduction ever could."

—u/Ok_Artichoke_9009

17. "The way they show up late everywhere. Like, more than an hour late."

18. "Never trust someone who is so susceptible to getting a power trip anytime they get something right or use their 'experience' as a reason to try to boss you around. I had two coworkers who were like that. I shut them down once I realized they thought I was an easy victim. Nope, I was just giving you plenty of time to stop, until I had to stop you."

—u/TheCleanestKitchen

19. "If they listen after they ask how someone is doing. A repeated failure to ask, notice, or care about how the others around them are doing. That gets overlooked way too often."

—u/The_Bag_Lady_

20. "In my experience, it's how someone reacts when you tell them something you're afraid of. 'I'm scared of the dark,' and they immediately tease you by turning off the lights. To me, that's not a joke. That's someone showing you exactly how comfortable they are disrespecting you to your face."

—u/Summer_rayne-

21. "How they react to your good news."

25. "Not returning the shopping cart."

26. "How they respond when you ask who they voted for in the last election."

—u/Nitrofox2

28. "Bragging about the money they have."

32. "Whether they can handle a full conversation without pulling out their phone."

35. And finally, "How they treat you when you aren't on the best of terms."

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Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.